If this child doesn’t want to share his toys with other kids, his mother says he DOESN’T have to!
Alanya Kolberg, a mother of three cute, young children has something strong to say to all the mommies of the world. She has observed the reinforced lectures parents throw at their children about sharing stuff with other kids. Everyone believes children must learn to share at an early age. But, Kolberg is opposed to this, and by her public post on Facebook, she is making everyone think twice.
The Springfield, MO, based mom stands firm on her ground and declared if her boy doesn’t want to share his toys, he doesn’t have to, and no one is going to ‘teach’ him how to be disciplined. Apparently, 212,421 people agree with her, because its the number of shares her post gathered. The reason behind her controversial stand is a recent encounter she had with her child in a park.
After the event, she took a stand by putting up a Facebook status, starting with a statement in all caps— MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS.
Explaining the scenario, she told everyone that she took her boy, Carson for a walk to the park. Soon as they entered, six boys came over to her child and demanded he share his toys. Overwhelmed by the demand, Carson clutched his Transformer, Minecraft figure and truck to his chest and looked at his mother for a response.
Kolberg, who was noticing the whole situation, assured her son in a very calm way, “You can tell them no, Carson.” Going on even further adding, “Just say no. You don’t have to say anything else.” Soon after Carson said no, all the boys ran to her complaining that her son doesn’t want to share, to which she replied: “He doesn’t have to share with you. He said no. If He wants to share, He will.”
Wow. Way to go mommy! When this happened, everyone in the park, especially the parents of those kids gave this super cool mommy their ugly hot looks.
Opposing this attitude of children and their parents both, Alanya Kolberg came up with a perfect retort.
“If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.”
Going further, she questioned the manners of those giving her the looks saying, “So really, while you’re giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here? The person reluctant to give his 3 toys away to 6 strangers, or the 6 strangers demanding to be given something that doesn’t belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?”
This perception really does makes sense, you know. This mother believes her goal is to teach her child how to say no. That because she has personally seen adults who have no idea how to practice self-care by saying no to people. This happens to all people including this mother, she confesses, because they never learned to set any boundaries.
In any case, this proud mommy concludes, “Carson only brought the toys to share with my friend’s little girl, who we were meeting at the park. He only didn’t want to share with the greedy boys because he was excited to surprise her with them.”
We don’t want to live in a world where we have to give up anything just because anyone said so. This mother is not going to let her kid learn it the right way, and she is right in doing so! Isn’t this kid adorable? And his mother, we know for sure she is parenting her kids the boss way!